I barely have 35 days left before I am on that plane home, with no idea right now if and when I will return. And it’s getting harder and harder when I think about having to end this relationship. We both put up a strong face in front of each other, carry on discussing our lives and living it like we do not have an inevitable end which is right around the corner. And then, there are those moments when our hearts are sunk all the way down our stomach, and holding tears back is impossible. Especially after we got along so well. Especially after all our arguments were something we did playfully, and never actually had any of our differences interfere.
He remains so strong most of the time. But tonight, when we decided to not see each other for a few days because of our overly demanding work schedules, I think something struck him. And the thought of being away for the next couple of days did not sink in easy. Because, for the first time, we decided upon it. We have went, at most, 4 or 5 days without seeing each other, but none of that was planned and none of them were so close to my leaving.
Except now, it is. Now, where we plan to concentrate on other areas of life, it is becoming real. Because, in 35 short days, this will become the norm. We will have no choice but to move on. And all of this love will turn into resentment down the road, where all the jokes about “so with your next one” will start to become the bitter truth.
I guess that is the thing. We joke too much. We tease too much. We are ridiculous most of the time. Yeah, we have our serious talks, but we are just so much fun with each other, time flies away way too fast. It’s easy to be ourselves. We are different people with different beliefs. We have fun doing the same things though. We are laid back, never demanding. Just demanding because we see other couples do that. Of course, in our eyes, we are the most perfect thing.
I guess I still am aware of the flaws. I guess we knew our future together was unlikely. I would not budge about my religious beliefs; he could not about his. We probably thought that somewhere down the road, one of us would change our minds. But then again, we are so young. He will not be this person two years from now, neither will I. But what we did not have the opportunity to do was to grow together and see what could become of us.
Our first date was at the movie, Celeste and Jesse Forever. I loved that movie, but for some reason, it is how I always saw us becoming. Celeste was high maintenance, and Jesse was as chilled out and laid back as he could be. They loved the hell out of each other, but the painful part was where they had to leave each other with how much they still and will always love the other. Yet, had to go on continue their lives with other people. And those characters are just us. Except, so far, there is not anyone else.
With time, we will probably stop missing each other. We will get too busy with our lives and the different time zones will get the best of us. With time, our feelings will fade away and our hearts will become sour towards each other. With time, maybe we will find someone who believes in the same things. But in that mean time, it hurts.
However, we can shut our eyes for now. We are going on our first trip together, to see my college friends. We are going to do what we normally do – go to movies, go to restaurants, go to the mall, lay in bed and watch TV and eat pizza, and plan out career shifts. It’s the last thing left to do – help him find a career which he is passionate about, while planting my own passion wherever I can.
I went years without a steady thing I could call a relationship, and my plan was to continue like that. But then I met him, and he was sweet, kind, gentle, funny, and loyal. And I could not help but appreciate who he was, and eventually love him for being this person. Long distance is not a valid option – since I am not sure yet if I am going to be able to come back, why hang on to it? He asked me to marry him, but that would be too hasty a decision, and my conditions are endless, hence invalid. Realistically, our only option is to go our own way, remain friends because throwing away the closest person to you is just, well… stupid. I could never do that to him. I could never want to do that. We have both went through long-distance before, and it would just not make any sense to go down that road when we already know it would only be bitter. We watched enough TV with couples like us in our situations, and only a fairy tale was the happily-ever-after answer.
This will be my first time trying to continue a friendship with any man dude I was more than a friend to. And I will go back to closing my eyes, and imagining this late night, brokenhearted blog never happened.